Does my teen have depression?

Most teens will have times where they feel low, unmotivated, troubled or directionless. It can be worrisome when they are sleeping in till midday, lose motivation for study or exercise, and are withdrawn from family relationships. 

These symptoms do not always point to a depressive disorder, especially if temporary, but some positive interventions can prevent them from spiralling out of control.

Is it just moodiness or a Depressive Disorder?

There are many factors that contribute to our mood and feelings on any given day. Teenagers are growing at a rapid rate, both physically and emotionally. Their brain is developing and changing, requiring a lot of energy and rest. Their social relationships are becoming much more important to them, and they are increasingly independent in their decisions and thinking. The progression through puberty brings a new awareness of their own sexuality, and they are intensely working out their identity and self-image.

During this season, mood can be affected by many different factors. Most teens face new types of stress that they have not faced before, causing them to feel anxious and out of control. Many will experience conflict and confusion in some of their important relationships. Other factors in mood can be linked to screen time, diet, sleep and exercise. Many of these are external contributors and can be manually adjusted with some deliberate choices and changes.

However, there are some adolescents who experience longer lasting moods of heaviness and low feelings that may come with darker thoughts that spiral into dangerous territory. These are not just mood swings, but concerning patterns that disrupt normal daily activities, create withdrawal from relationships, and impact school performance. In such cases, medical intervention can be a life saver, both emotionally and literally. Don’t wait too long to seek help when signs are there.


Signs of depression

According to the DSM-IV, some of the signs and symptoms of clinical depression in adolescents may include:

  • Long-term feelings of sadness, emptiness or hopelessness
  • Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small matters
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, that they would usually enjoy
  • Sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much
  • Tiredness and lack of energy, so even small tasks take extra effort
  • Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain
  • Anxiety, agitation or restlessness
  • Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or self-blame
  • Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things
  • Frequent or recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts
  • Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches


All adolescents will display some of these symptoms at various times. But when numerous symptoms last more than two weeks, are noticeable on a daily basis, and are interrupting regular day-to-day activity, then it may be time to seek help.

I was withdrawn and angry, and didn’t even know why. I had some trouble with girls at school but I could normally handle that. This time, I kinda spiralled out of control. I lost my motivation and couldn’t care what happened to me or others. I even had thoughts of suicide. I started on some anti-depressant medication and after a few weeks, it really started to work. It was like a blanket lifting off me. My trouble didn’t go away, but I wasn’t going to those really dark places and I had a bit more hope. I actually wish I had gotten help sooner.

Who should we seek help from?

Your GP is usually the best person to speak with first. General Practitioners (your local Doctor) in Australia are able to talk with you about suitable medication that can have a marked affect within a relatively short period. Not only that, but the GP can prescribe a government funded mental health plan that enables you to access a Medicare rebate for sessions you attend with a registered Psychologist. It may also be worth asking your school counsellor or even friends to advise a therapist who is skilled in working with teens. It can be difficult to find a professional who is both educated AND relatable to a younger client.


Practical interventions for depression

Whether they are simply down and lethargic, or in a mental health crisis, there are many things you can do to help counter those feelings of depression.

  1. Invite vulnerable conversations – A conversation might start with a simple, “How are you feeling?” Or “I’ve noticed you are not your usual self. Want to talk about it?” Even sharing some of your own challenges may create a safe space for a teen to share theirs. But it’s important that they feel safe, that there will not be any judgement or critique.


  1. Ensure teens are getting adequate sleep – Sleep is a huge factor in adolescents developing an healthy brain. Research shows that teens need 8-10 hours per night, but very few are getting this. Ensuring teens are getting adequate sleep requires some intentionality and boundary setting, particularly if they are in a pattern of staying up late or taking screen devices to bed.


  1. Encourage physical exercise – Exercise has proven affects on depression and will benefit even the deepest of clinical depression. Unfortunately, many of us, including the teenagers we care for, wait until the desire for exercise comes along before we move a muscle – and they are left waiting and waiting. Creating an exercise routine, joining a sporting team or creating a new family rhythm may just be the thing that turns it all around.


  1. Monitor screen time – There is a growing group of professionals who believe that screen time is having a huge psychological affect on the human brain and mood. Some teens are on phones and devices for hours at a time, causing them to remain in a sedentary state for a long time, often in a dark environment, without fresh air and exercise. Many are on devices late into the night impacting the length and quality of sleep. Limiting screen time – as difficult as that can be – may be a significant step in improving a teenagers mood.


  1. Consider the context – A therapist may be the best person to help make sense of life events and circumstances that are causing pain and sorrow. It may be the loss of a loved one, conflict in relationships, the sense of rejection or not having a place of belonging, unmet expectations or simply the challenges of school. Facing challenges is part of life, and teenagers are learning how to bounce back from difficulties and grow resilience. These challenges may cause temporary sadness and sorrow, but they present opportunities for growth.

Have you experienced or know someone who has suffered depression? We’d love to hear of your experience if it might help others.


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Dan Hardie

Dan is a counsellor and the founder of MyStrengths

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